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Normal Development: 12 to 14 Years Old


Some attitudes, behaviors, and physical milestones tend to occur at certain ages. It is perfectly natural for a teen to reach some milestones earlier and others later than the general trend. The following are general guidelines for the stages of normal development.

Physical Development

  • May have growth spurt (girls usually develop 2 years earlier than boys).
    • girls: changes in fat distribution, pubic hair, breast development start of menstrual period
    • boys: testicular growth, voice changes, pubic hair, "wet dreams"
  • May try to experiment with body (masturbation).

Emotional Development

  • May be moody.
  • Struggles with sense of identity.
  • Is sensitive and has a need for privacy.
  • Worries about increased social and school stresses.
  • May have strong opinions and challenge family rules and values.
  • May try to "show-off."

Social Development

  • Becomes more self-sufficient.
  • Usually seeks out friends with beliefs and values similar to those of his or her family.
  • May think about appearance all the time
  • Starts to look outside of family for love and relationships.
  • Influenced by peers about clothes and interests.
  • May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex).

Mental Development

  • Mostly judges based on concrete rules of right and wrong, good or bad.
  • Thinks in terms of the present rather than the future.
  • May start to think abstractly and about complex issues.

If you have any concerns about your teen's development, check with your healthcare provider.


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Last modified: 2009-09-23
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